Our “WHY”

The need for change is now! Consider these statistics and statements:

  • “With all the modern male movements in our nation, the modern church is having trouble reaching men.  Women comprise more than 60 percent of the typical adult congregation on any given Sunday.  At least one-fifth of married women regularly worship without their husbands.”

(Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Morrow)

  • “When a man’s heart is inclined toward Jesus, his heart is also lovingly inclined toward his spouse, children, and grandchildren. Men, you were put here to love, to protect, to provide, to care, to serve, to nourish, and to bless. That’s what it means to be a man… Unfortunately, these types of men are the exception not the norm in our society. We have a crisis in the US. We’re sorely lacking in strong, godly men who love Jesus and lead well both in the church and in their marriages.”  (Mark Driscoll, pastor Mars Hill)
  • “Christianity as it currently exists has done some terrible things to men. When all is said and done I think most men believe that God put them on earth to be a good boy….Really now, do I overstate my case?  Walk into most churches in America, have a look around, and ask yourself this question: What is a Christian man? Don’t listen to what is said, look at what you find there.  You’d have to admit a Christian man is….bored.” (Wild at Heart , John Eldridge)
  • “Because of dramatic increases in divorce and nonmarital childbearing, about 28% of our nation’s children — more than 20 million kids — now live in a household without their father, up from 10 million kids (14%) in 1970, according to a recent Census Bureau report.”  (“Honoring Thy Fathers” by W. Bradford Wilcox; The Wall Street  Journal www.online.wsj.com, June 2008)
  • “Nearly 4 in 10 mothers (39.3 percent) are primary breadwinners, bringing home the majority of the family’s earnings, and nearly two-thirds (62.8 percent) are breadwinners or co-breadwinners, bringing home at least a quarter of the family’s earnings. What’s more, women are now much more likely to head families on their own.”  (“The New Breadwinner” By Heather Bousney; The Shriver Report: shriverreport.com)

The Shriver Report makes a strong case that we now live in a “Women’s Nation”.   We are not concerned with the number of women working or the wages they make, however, we are gravely concerned about the extended adolescent male that is no longer the exception but the rule modern society uses to define the men of our age.

King Solomon says in Proverbs that “…as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another…” (Proverbs 27:17 NIV).  We were never meant to do this journey alone.  We need each other.  We believe the tension and the discontent that our men are feeling is a merciful gift from our God calling us to engage this question: Who were we created to be?

We need to walk together, challenge each other, expect more from each other, and move toward a different tomorrow for our next generation; a different world that is led by strong men with vision and hope for a future. Men who love their God and know how to hear his voice and respond as men with courage to follow!